Washington Post: ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’ told me to stay pure until marriage. I hope you read that sentence as dripping with the sarcasm in which it is intended. Men, as you may recall, are hardwired to desire sex and we can’t blame them or hold them accountable for their urges. And yes, this metaphor was used primarily against girls. No one wants that piece of chewed up gum picked up off of the sidewalk. But once she engages in physical intimacy, she is now a chewed up piece of gum, spit out in disgust and left on the ground. A virgin, you see, is like a shiny new stick of gum which you desire. One of the more popular metaphors of this time involved young girls and chewed up gum. It goes so far as to suggest that teens and young adults who engage in physical intimacy become soiled, used goods. Purity culture is a church movement that suggests that physical intimacy, when taken to the extreme even hand holding and kissing, should be avoided until marriage. At the time, he was 21 years old and was deeply wrapped up in what is referred to as purity culture. When I first began working with teens, both in the library and in the church, Josh Harris wrote a book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Trigger Warning: Sexual Abuse and Violence are discussed in this post
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